The Outlier: A Poem by Peg Edera & Thank You to William Stafford

“I tell you, Chickadee, I am afraid of people who cannot cry.”

Alice Walker

 

Peg1Portland’s icy-snow is melting, and some of us are staying warm with words.

For me it’s been sitting on the couch with one book after another, but on Friday night some lucky poets gathered at the Newmark downtown to celebrate what would have been Oregon Poet Laureate William Stafford’s 100 birthday: Li-Young Lee, Mary Szybist, Kim Stafford, Matthew Dickman, Paulann Peterson and Tony Hoagland (Ted Kooser did not make it as planned) read their own work, some Stafford poems, and they each talked about the influence the late-poet had on their own lives.

I’m sorry I missed the event, but here’s a video worth checking out to take in some of William Stafford’s wealth of words and life, The Stafford Centennial: A Conversationan OPB production.

William Stafford is known as a poet who awoke early each morning to write. Everyday he would make poems, and when someone would ask how he does it, ask about those days when the muse didn’t seem to show up, he’d say, “I just lower my standards.”

We don’t gather at 4am in the morning, but a small circle of us meet several times a month and write poetry. During our darkest months, we gather as the sun rises, and that’s when Peg Edera wrote “The Outlier”.

For Peg, this poem is about “a sense of not belonging, that feeling that often accompanies grief. Be it the grief of a loved one passing on or the grief that accompanies trauma of any kind. My experience of recognizing the ‘outlier’ in myself has been part of my return to myself.”

“The outlier is not a part of myself I like hanging out with, but she is part of me and always has things to teach me–if I let her.”

I like this poem, and don’t we all sometimes find ourselves in that place? We finger and sniffle through experiences and events without even realizing what we see and feel. We work through grief–write poetry, sing, hike in the woods, cry, wander, grow grapes–not even aware of the Outlier in ourselves.

 

The Outlier

It doesn’t matter

when your skin seems to belong

to another

your tongue­­­­ thick and dry,

when your feet feel brittle,

long bones frail,

scent dull

like a room unopened for years.

This is when to simply stop.

This is when to shun the urge

to fill the emptiness.

If you remember

to let the stopping fill you,

to let silence broaden

and remember to sink

into the Outlier

you have become,

you begin to make friends again

with someone you’d like to forget.

She is not so different

from the one you want

to remember.

Trust the Outlier to lead you.

There are so many ways to come home.

 Peg Edera

 

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7 Replies to “The Outlier: A Poem by Peg Edera & Thank You to William Stafford”

  1. I love the poem — and also the sense of place. It made me want to be there, despite all those snow pictures my Portland friends keep posting. (Of course, I now officially live in the 10th snowiest city in America, so Portland might be a respite from Worcester, Mass.)

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